Marriage can be surreal, unpredictable, and enticing all at the same time. We find and fall in love with our best friend, and all of our dreams seem to be coming true. We've heard of the princess being rescued by her prince and they ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Unfortunately, this isn't how marriage is in real life, especially when you're trying to be what God has called you to be. Marriage is two self-centered individuals coming together to live as one.
Given all the foes and dips that may come with marriage, this book gives the basic understanding of marriage the way God intended and not as the way fairy tales has made it out to be. Its meant to help wives be more self-sacrificial toward their husband by acting in grace, love, and forgiveness. In this journey with our best friends, we can work toward being more humbling and giving. It takes more than love alone for a great marriage. The basis of a great marriage starts with a strong spiritual foundation, a strong friendship which grew into a strong romance, along with tons of work, sacrifices, and submission by both partners to make it last.
This book provides Rae-Beth's opinion with communication, getting through the tough times, fair fighting, and keeping God the center of the marriage. Dive in and see marriage from one wife's perspective.
Tell us a bit more about your new book, The Gracious Wife...
The purpose for my writing this book is directed at all women in all walks of life. My goal is to help those who are looking forward to getting married one day, those who are engaged, and those who are married. As I wrote this book, I included so very personal details about the darker side of my marriage in hopes of giving someone else the opportunity to learn from my mistakes. I feel that we are so focused on what society thinks is a great marriage over what God wants for our marriage. In the past, I was so focused on doing things my way and pointing out where my husband was going wrong; while I did this, I forgot to focus on what God had planned for me as a wife. The transparency and honesty within the pages of this book is to show those who are struggling what I overcame and that it's possible for them to overcome them too.
God wants and desires for us to be the gracious wife he intended. I pray that each person who reads The Gracious Wife can relate to several areas within the book and see their marriage in a different light by the end of their reading. I encourage all women to read this book, even if their looking to strengthen their joyful marriage. We all know that marriage doesn't come with a manual, but I think this book will make a great engagement gift to a Christian bride to be, a Christian wife who wants to better herself for God and her spouse, and for the struggling wife. There are a lot of Bible references that are there to help guide and direct the reader toward the ways that God intended. I believe this book will be great to refer back to often throughout marriage to help keep us on our intended path.
So, join me in being your husbands crown as you journey with me into being a gracious wife.
The Gracious Wife(Taken from Chapter one)
Most little girls dream about their wedding day. They want the perfect dress with the perfect pair of shoes for the big walk down the perfectly decorated aisle where their prince charming is waiting to sweep them off their feet and run away to paradise. However, this is where the dream usually comes to a screeching halt; at least for me, it did.
Growing up, I was a very imaginative little girl. I made a castle out of blankets, cars out of boxes, a field into a battlefield, and two rooms in the same house into a neighborhood. But thinking about it, I never went on to dream of how my life would be once I was married. Let's face it, most Disney movies stop once the princess married her prince. (Until years later when the second movie comes out for the second generation and those that saw them aren't interested in fairytales anymore.)
I was married on August 11, 2012, to my prince charming who loved me for the previous eight years. When I walked down the aisle to become Mrs. Buda, it never crossed my mind on what kind of wife I wanted to be for this man I was forever uniting within the eyes of God. It's a little sad to say, but I started thinking about these three years after I was married, and after a handful of problematic situations had occurred, which almost ended my marriage, what I actually wanted for my marriage. Shouldn't we be thinking of the values of a wife/husband before we say I do? I think so.